Saturday, January 24, 2009

What to say?

I don't really know how to use this newfangled thing. I used to have one, and didn't get it back then either. Do I just talk, vent? Whatever...we will see how this whole thing pans out.

I have things I wish I knew. Like, why don't people just get along with each other? Isn't it just a waste of time anyway? I mean, our life is only so long. Why waste time worrying about the small things, the infinitely less important bullshit that everyone just FREAKS OUT over. I don't get it.
OR even with things in relationships. Does it really matter what one calls their friends? Even if they have been doing it for years? Or what one's friends call them...why does it matter?

I have never had a problem with what significant others call their friends or vice versa. So, I feel like I'm being punished for being so blase about it. It's upsetting to call my friends babe, or sweetie, or love, just as much as it's upsetting for my FRIENDS to call me babe, and gorgeous, and honey. Aren't friends the most important thing (aside from family; those of which really care)? Plus, friends are like family to me. So I don't see a problem with pulling them into my loving terms category in life.

My question is this - How can you tell your significant other that they have no right to tell you what you can say to other people, without making it turn into a brawl that results in a break-up?

If only there were a book that had all of the answers...

1 comment:

  1. Relationships always are a negotiation. If you've explained your feelings about how important your friends are and your "loving" terms are not an exclusive right to your sig other, hopefully you can reach some understanding. It's truly unfortunate when jealousy rears its head, but if the relationship is worth anything to you both maybe you can find one name you only call that person. It's not a perfect solution but at least your other will feel like they are "special" to you.